June 25, 2013

If you have a very busy job, or like me have two jobs, or if you are studying or working on a particularly large project here are my little tools and steps to take to help you get through a busy time. I am finding these even more important at the moment.

Firstly some physical acts to maintain your health when busy…

1. Sleep

This is super important if you are anything like me, I cannot function without enough sleep. There are some lucky people out there (my Husband is one) that can have very little sleep, get up and go about their day as normal. Most people need 6-7 hours.

If you are really busy do you think it’s better to stay up till 3am and not do your best work or to shut down at a reasonable hour and get up early refreshed? Exactly!

2. Tea

Coffee is my drink at the moment, until I have a had cup in the AM I feel like I am not ready to face the day. I know this is purely habit as I tend to go through different fads all year.
Make that change to tea, even better if it’s a loose leaf green tea. It will start you off gently with a little caffeine and we all know the majorness of green tea for your health. You will reap the benefits of this throughout your busy day.

3. Music

This could work in so many ways, are you studying? Then listen to something in the background that is calming, not distracting.
If you are travelling to work listen to something upbeat to wake you up and make you feel happy.  Know the power of a favourite song to uplift a bad mood, this always helps me enjoy my walk to work a little more.

4. Eat Well

When I am busy one of the first things to go is cooking from scratch, it doesn’t (and shouldn’t) have to be this way and will only be of detriment to your health, which let’s face it you are busy at work, college or home you do have time to get ill?

Get yourself an arsenal of quick, easy healthy recipes that you can go to, or set aside one evening and cook a couple of dishes that you can freeze and thus freeing up more time during the week.

If you really have no time a plate of your favourite vegetables steamed may not be exciting but will refuel you and your vitamin levels and sometimes this is what I am craving.

There are lots of quick easy recipes on Full as an Egg and on here.

5. Exercise

Which brings us to my next point… exercise, once again often the first thing to get pushed to the side when I get busy but not any more…

I actually get ill pretty quick when I am not exercising… generally within two weeks. Not kidding, if I eat naughty foods for two weeks but go to the gym I feel crappy but okay, if I skip the gym i get a cold or fluey symptoms.

Don’t let it slide, that time is so important. If you really feel stuck incorporate it into your day… that walk to work, put your trainers on and speed it up. Take a walk or exercise class on your lunch break or get up a half hour earlier and run then. It’ll be tough but you will never regret doing it, it will energize you!

This is particularly tough for me right now, but I am still walking a lot, and have just started yoga again.

6. Stretching and Meditation

Now if you are really going through a stressful busy period or project I cannot recommend this enough.

If you can go to a yoga or Pilates class. I am so addicted to that quiet time of concentration on my breath and really feeling my body get stretched out.

If you can’t learn some techniques and do it right after you get up. You will feel silly at first but once you start you’ll love it.

7. Take a Break

No matter how busy you are feeling frazzled and tired will not help you get it all done. Make sure you take a break. If you are sat in front of a computer screen all day take regular 5 minute breaks. Walk to the window and grab some air or get up and make more green tea just take your eyes of the screen every now and again.

As for lunch break, I am a huge advocate of a proper walk at lunch, no matter how bad the weather. Blow off the cobwebs, headphones in, walk even just for 20-30 minutes. It will do you the world of good and you’ll come back to your work ready to go again.

You need air and sunshine to live, let alone to keep you happy.

8. Take Care of Yourself

Basically I am telling you not to drop the things that I drop when I am busy.

Pamper time; my nails, a haircut, an eyebrow threading, shaving your legs etc. All those things take time but if you split them up and do one thing a day you’ll feel much better for it. This was my new years resolution… I don’t always succeed but it really is true.

The same could work on taking care of your home… one little chore a day will keep you on top of things and make you feel good.

9. Call a Friend

Feeling stressed? Call a friend and see how they are, laugh a little and put something in the diary for when things calm down. It’ll immediately give you a lift and something to look forward too.

10. Switch Off

When you really need to concentrate switch off, leave your phone in your bag or another room and don’t check your email or the news or twitter or anything for an hour or two and just dig in to your project or work. You’ll be surprised how much more you get done when you are not distracted.

All obvious things maybe, but I need this list as much as anyone.

I have found that being a grown up means being busy, juggling looking after a home, a job… man some people even throw kids into the mix… simple tools and remembering what is important for you will mean that even when you are reeeeeeeeeeally busy you still feel on top of everything and don’t get too stressed out.

image from ExPress-O via Marian WD

Marriage Advice

August 29, 2012

Another Wedding Wednesday, not a wedding today but some advice that I think is spot on.

From Lydia Netzer, married 15 years.

1. Go to bed mad.

Her reasoning being that everything will seem better in the morning. So true. Sometimes an argument is just stupid.

2. Laugh if you can.

Stopping a fight becoming a fight is a skill, one I am working on.

3. Don’t criticize. Ever.

“Here is a fact: Whatever critical thing that you are about to say to your wife is already being loudly articulated in her head. And if it’s true, she already feels like crap about it.”

I totally agree with this, and try never to criticize.

4. Be the mirror.

I am leaving most of the quote in here… such good advice.

“Your husband is the mirror in which you see yourself. And the things you say to him give him an image of himself too, which he will believe.
You want him to believe it, so make it good.
Be a mirror that reflects something positive: you’re smart, you’re successful, you’re fantastic in the sack, you’re a great provider, you’re the best. 

Don’t think he won’t believe you because you’re married and you’re contractually obligated to say nice things. He’ll believe the shitty, insulting things you say and the gloriously positive things.”

5. Be proud and brag.

“Let your spouse hear you talking about them in glowing terms to other people. Be foolish. Be obvious. It will mean everything. You will stay married forever.”

People always tell me I am too soppy. I adore my Husband and I don’t care who knows it.

6. Do your own thing.


7. Have kids.

“Kids stop you from being as crazy as you want to be. Because when you have kids, you can’t be that crazy.”

8. Get really good at sex.

Speak up basically. Don’t settle. It’s important.

Great advice.

9. Move.

I love this…

“Live in different houses. In different parts of the country. Travel. Make it so that you can look back and divide up your life into the years you spent in different cities, or different houses. If you’re feeling stuck geographically or physically, you can confuse yourself into thinking you’re stuck romantically. See your husband in different places, in different contexts, in different countries even. Try it. Take him to a mountaintop and give him another look. Pretty sexy. Take him to a new city and check out his profile.

Along the same lines, don’t be afraid to change personally, or let your wife change as a person. Don’t worry about “growing apart.” Be brave and evolve. Become completely different. Don’t gather moss. Stagnation is unattractive.”

10. Stop thinking temporarily.

“Marriage is not conditional. It is permanent. Your husband will be with you until you die. That is a given.”

This is the best thing about marriage. The feeling of security. I don’t think of it as temporary but I do know that if I don’t always give it my all it might not be and that scares me more than anything.

11. Do not put yourself in trouble’s way.

“Any friendship that troubles the marriage should be over immediately. Protect it with knives and teeth, not because it’s fragile but because it’s precious.”

12. Make a husband pact with your friends.

This is good… I always worry if I have had a moan they think it means something. It doesn’t ever.

“The husband pact says this: I promise to listen to you complain about your husband even in the most dire terms, without it affecting my good opinion of him. I will agree with your harshest criticism, accept your gloomiest predictions. I will nod and furrow my brow and sigh when you describe him as a hideous ogre. Then when your fight is over and love shines again like a beautiful sunbeam in your life, I promise to forget everything you said and regard him as the most charming of princes once more.”

13. Bitch to his mother, not yours.

“This is one I did read somewhere in a magazine, and it’s true. His mother will forgive him. Yours never will. If you’re a man, bitch to your friends. They expect it.”

I don’t think I would bitch to either but it’s a very good point.

14. Be loyal.

“You and your spouse are a team of two. It is you against the world. No one else is allowed on the team, and no one else will ever understand the team’s rules.”

Love this.

“Ups and downs ultimately don’t matter, because the team endures.”

15. Trust the person you married.

“Love them completely and let them love you. If it all goes to seed, it’s going to hurt either way. Better to have gone into it full throttle. Full throttle marriage is a thrilling ride.”

See the full article at the Huffinton Post

The Busy Trap

August 6, 2012

There was a lot of talk about this article a few weeks ago… I have only just got around to reading the whole thing. You should too…

“Idleness is not just a vacation, an indulgence or a vice; it is as indispensable to the brain as vitamin D is to the body, and deprived of it we suffer a mental affliction as disfiguring as rickets. The space and quiet that idleness provides is a necessary condition for standing back from life and seeing it whole, for making unexpected connections and waiting for the wild summer lightning strikes of inspiration — it is, paradoxically, necessary to getting any work done.”

New York Times Article: The ‘Busy’ Trap, by Tim Kreider

I totally agree, I used to thrive on being busy now I go crazy when I don’t get some down time.

Spotted at Swiss Miss